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After hours, days, and months of doing the same things at home over and over again, it’s easy to lose sight of the big picture.
Stay at home mom depression and anxiety can be hard to avoid. I have met my fair share of women that will attest to that!
Breaking that cycle comes down to some simple mindset shifts and consciously deciding to be the ruler of your day.
Here are six of my favorite tips to break out of your funk, and become the happy, productive stay at home mom that you want to be!
1. Wake Up and Get Productive
I have been guilty of feeling like I can “enjoy my morning” and laze around in the past. It never works out, because my kiddos are pretty demanding.
I end up feeling frustrated and groggy and typically have to clean up some mess that I would have totally prevented if I had gotten up.
Since I realized this, I have made it a point to get up and accomplish my morning chores before I do any relaxing. By the time I am finished, I’m usually ready to be up and at ’em.
But trust me, I get it! Rough nights are hard to recover from. I try to remind myself that if I wear my kiddos out now, they will actually nap later, which means I can catch some real zzz’s if I have to.
At least at my house, it usually works out better to suffer through the first 15 minutes in the morning until I feel alive again than to try and snooze through the chaos.
2. They Get Dressed Everyday
One of the most simple and impactful things that you can do to avoid feeling depressed is getting dressed every day!
It feels counter-intuitive to put in the time and energy if you have nowhere to go, but getting ready in the morning will make you more likely to accept opportunities to leave the house if they come up. (I’ve also made it a goal to go outside every day. Read more about that here.)
Rather than facing the job of getting yourself and the kids ready on a timeframe, all you need to do is grab what you need and head out. It’s much less overwhelming!
To make things easier, I try to think about my daily goals and get dressed for the occasion. Some days I wear leggings that practically double as jammies, and other days I go all in with some jeans.
I have been amazed at how much more productive getting dressed makes me.
Related: The Best Ideas to Get Your Tiny Closet Under Control
3. Stick To A Routine
If you find yourself losing time in a day, or wondering what you have accomplished, you might need to reevaluate your routine.
As a mother, following a routine will help your kids transition from one situation to the next more easily.
As a businesswoman, having (the right) routine will increase your productivity and make time so that you can smash through your goals!
Now, to be honest, I’m not a natural planner, but it is a pretty essential skill to hone if you ever want to be productive! Just keep trying things until you find what works.
I finally figured out that Trello is my tool of choice, and I have several routines that save us from chaos:
My Daily Cleaning Routine-With Three Kids 7 and Under!
How To Rely on Trello When You Struggle to Follow a Schedule
How To Meal Plan in Minutes With MyFreezEasy
How To Strike the Perfect Work-Life Balance as a Mompreneur
3. Ignore Technology and Go Outside
One of my favorite ways to have more fun and less work? Clean my house, and then leave. That way I only have to clean it once in a day!
Alright, you don’t have to clean first, but I have found that it really does help to get out of the house. If I leave my house tidy and then we play at other places all day long, it has several affects:
- Nothing is waiting to be taken care of at home so I can enjoy our time out.
- The work isn’t piling up since we aren’t there.
- My children benefit from the quality time that we spend with each other stress and guilt-free!
- I benefit from the act of being a present and engaged mom.
- We create lasting memories and strengthen our bond, which helps manage later on with kiddo’s behaviors at home.
Getting out of the house is so incredibly important! Work it into your plans. Think ahead and pack some snacks and sandwiches the night before so that you can just run until nap time. It’s a win-win for everyone!
4. Make Real Connections
When I feel like I am struggling with depression, and my life is going to spin out of control, it almost always comes back to lack of connection to other people.
It is so easy to get stuck in the mundane. This leads to small talk and surface level discussions with your spouse and your friends. Try taking a step back every once in a while to talk about the deeper things in life, like goals, dreams, and values.
Try getting out of the house and making some memories together. Even if it’s just you and your kids, these meaningful connections will make you feel motivated for change and remind you of the big picture.
Sometimes we need that in order to deal with the small obstacles!
Related: Let Your Friends Offer You Strength of Mind
5. Set Big Goals
Speaking of the bigger picture, nothing is more motivating than having a goal to reach in the first place. I know that it feels like you already have a full plate, but think about whether that plate has anything for yourself on it.
If it doesn’t, you might not be tired, but uninspired. Think about something that you really want, then start taking baby steps towards it.
These big goals can be anything. For example, getting in shape, decluttering your home, or starting a business.
The key is to find something that is challenging, but exciting. Push yourself to do take the steps to make progress even if it is hard, and notice how it makes you feel.
Amazing things happen right outside your comfort zone!
Related: How To Overcome an Identity Crisis in Motherhood
Be A Happy and Productive Mom
I know that being a stay at home mom comes with its own challenges and advantages. It is an underappreciated position in this world, but also an amazing opportunity.
Make sure that you make the most of this season of life by overcoming the struggles and going for it all!
Be the mom you want to be. Be the woman you want to be. Don’t let life pass you by! You can overcome any obstacle you choose.
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